LIFE AFTER SABBATICAL

So what happens after, after you’ve set your self free, explored the world by will and declared yourself a carrier of the gypsy heart syndrome? Life goes on. And just like you found yourself at a p…

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LIFE AFTER SABBATICAL

So what happens after, after you’ve set your self free, explored the world by will and declared yourself a carrier of the gypsy heart syndrome?

Life goes on. And just like you found yourself at a point in life where breaking free felt like the right thing to do.
You will reach another point in life.
A very different one.

A point where you don’t want to be free and wild, you want stability, you want to stop running.
Because you’ve finally gathered the courage and found the truest version of yourself. To face whatever life has been throwing at you while you’ve been bbusy chasing fleeting dreams.

So you collect all the memories, promise yourself you won’t forget what your sabbatical has taught you. And proudly carry this baggage into the next phase of life. Because your heart can only roam so far, before it tires and wants a familiar comfort to lie back on.
AND THAT’S OK TOO.

10 small but big things I wish I had known before going to INDONESIA:

  1. Seminyak is where everyone goes, got tons of restaurants and bars on the beach. (the locals are very likely to give you absurd directions to the beach)
  2. Sign up for a surfing class in South Kuta
  3. Do NOT GO TO THE ROCK BAR – it’s over hyped and honestly the sunset is just as beautiful while you sit on the beach. (plus that’s free and you don’t have to wait in ridiculous lines) (but if you really do want to go to ROCK Bar, I suggest you don’t wait in the 30- 60 minute line for the cable car, ask for the steps and walk down instead)
  4. GO TO GILI TRAWANGAN (do not hesitate). There are several tourist booths all over Bali, book a trip with them (I was very skeptical, but it turned out fine) (I paid 450,000 rupiah – said I was a student and bargained really hard). And learn deep sea diving with Ryan at Pesona Resort.
  5. The temples in Ubud are usually closed to tourists (except during full moon – is what I was told), you can only see them from outside.
  6. Every Friday some Ubud temples have kecak dances performances, you can buy a ticket that same day or evening (its quite fascinating)
  7. Go to warung eny restaurant at seminyak and try the noodle soup
  8. Learn to ride a bike before you go to Bali. It’s much easier to get around.
  9. Do not sit on the top of the boat to GIli with expensive equipment or your passport (there’s a huge chance you will get drenched)
  10. GO! But trust me you will not want to come back, it’s a lot like quicksand, it pulls you in and makes you want to stay.

The loop

When you go from working 10 hours a day for 5-6 days a week to free! That feeling starts with disbelief, then boredom, frustration and then finally happiness. But to go from happy to bored and lazy doesn’t take too long either!

But that’s where travel comes to the rescue. At least it did for me.

After quitting a 3-year job. And plunging head on into complete boredom and cluelessness. Travel saved my life!

The first trip just happened to happen and the rest, I made sure happened.

I was travelling for 5 out of the 6 months sabbatical I had asked for.

But then! After the 6th month I took a decision (I’m still debating if it was the right one). I quit my job.

I made my sabbatical permanent.

I was still stuck in the trance of travel and thought it was the best idea ever.

Who wants to go sit in an office everyday? Who wants to apply for leaves? Who wants to take advance permissions to travel?

A job just didn’t suit my new lifestyle.

But my new lifestyle wasn’t really suiting my bank balance.

With parents that were waiting for me to run out of funds to stop travelling, I had to find a way to make money!

So of course, I chose to try and make money from travel. I started my own company called sabbatical(that encourages people to take their own sabbatical) and also freelanced as a writer/ designer! What I didn’t realize is that, that takes more time and work than a full time job. (If I want it to make any money)

So I reduced my travelling, I settled for weekends at my family farmhouse instead.

And then shockingly, I got hooked to that life. Getting back to town on Monday, waiting for Thursday, and taking off again on Friday! I was stuck in a loop!

Sure I still took a trip here and there. But I no longer had a new destination and experience to talk about every week. And I didn’t mind it.

I spent more and more time at home, planning future trips (more like dreaming about future trips that I may never take) I wasn’t spending too much money, I was working a little bit, reconnecting with friends, trying to find the one!

I was settling down.

Or was I just settling?

I wonder if everyone feels this?

A kind of inertia.

When I’m travelling I want to keep travelling,

But now that I have been at home for more than a couple of months trying to get my life in order. I feel like there is a charm in being in the same city, staying home, staying in your comfort zone.

Now I’m about to leave again for 2 months of travel in just a few days.

And I don’t know how I feel about that.

Of course, I’m telling myself and anybody that asks, “I CANNOT WAIT! I’VE BEEN IN THE SAME CITY TOO LONG!”

But honestly, I don’t know how I feel about it. It seems a bit like a task, the planning, the being in an unknown place. I was happy to be home! I was used to it! It was easy!

And that’s when it hit me.

As human beings we are so quick to settle right back into routine!

The routine could be work-home-work or travel –travel –travel.

It’s all still a set path!

A comfort zone of repetition! Of doing small new things of the same old thing and believing, truly believing that we are living.

Are we living? Or are we stuck in a loop of unconscious repetition? Of being ourselves – which basically could be code for behaving in a certain way or doing certain kind of things again and again because we are used to doing them.

The only way out I can think of is tirelessly fighting our social tuning every single day, going the opposite direction of the one we want to. Saying yes when we really want to say no.

Or will we get used to that too? 

Unplanned but Unbelievable UTTARAKHAND


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Went to the ISKCON temple in bombay. met a prabhuji with a plan. got carried away with the plan. almost booked a ticket and a spot on a trip he was taking. felt super nervous. didn’t book. happened to talk to Niyanta Diwan Parekh about it. got carried away again. booked this time! still felt nervous. counted days till departure. counted hours till the ridiculously early morning flight. got to the airport just in time. had a layover at delhi airport. ate a pizza for breakfast. sat and watched (in complete awe) a piano that played automatically! made it for the next flight. landed in dehradun. walked out of the airport to see just mountains everywhere! found the driver. Drove to Chilla (just outside haridwar). Stopped at least twice to click pictures. Did not stop oohing and aaahing at our surroundings for the entire 1.5-hour drive! realised the rest of the group were going to be delayed by at least 10 hours. got our driver to show us haridwar! waked the streets aimlessly. gathered the courage to only dip our feet into the super cold water. got followed by random guys. ate amazing rasgulla! rushed to find a good spot for the Ganga aarti. sat for half an hour listening to some guy telling us how we must donate money for the aarti or we would regret it forever. did not donate. did not regret it either. watched the aarti cluelessly first. suddenly started spotting the giant aarti thaalis and flames. sat amazed. the number of aarti thaalis grew. chanted out loud with everyone. made our way back to the guesthouse. were warned to watch out for elephants if we planned on walking around. passed out! woke up. rushed to the jeep and Rajaji National Park. would not sit still. saw some deer. and more deer. and monkeys. and peacocks. did not see elephants or tigers. saw tiger pugmarks 😦 sat still finally. met the forest rangers. got a bit shocked when they said their orders were simple. “shoot at sight!” drove to Rishikesh. did a real Ganga dupki! did not carry extra clothes. tried to dry off. froze! finally made it back to the bus. found a changing room with a ceiling full of spiders. changed faster than ever! slept all the way to mussourie. got woken up by Niyanta Diwan Parekh to see a mountain full of lights! stayed awake as our driver insisted on taking a u-turn on the tiniest and highest road possible. got my hand almost crushed by a terrified Niyanta Diwan Parekh. made it to Kempti Village. were forced to share a dorm room with too many people. tried to dry our clothes from the Ganga dupki. went to sleep a little annoyed. woke up to the most incredible view! walked around happy again. taught a little pahadi boy how to use a dslr camera. learnt from a pahadi woman how to tie a headscarf. decided mussourie was too close to not see. convinced a couple with a car to let us borrow it. got dropped off at mussourie market. wandered around looking for Kalsang restaurant. walked a good 45 minutes. Saw a lot of the market. found it! got a table for 2. ordered for 5. couldn’t get over how amazing the place and food was. noticed the tables and the tissues full of reviews under them! added our own one! walked around some more. shopped a little. realised it was going to rain! found a cafe/ bar. had a beer and watched the view literally disappear amidst clouds and then reappear. watched my breath fog! got picked up by the rest of the group. slept all the way to Dehradun! Tried to dry our Ganga dupki clothes. woke up realising it had rained all night and our clothes were wetter than before. decided it was time to be super adventurous and part ways with the group! booked a car and a one-night stay at Silver sands campsite in Rishikesh! Drove through clouds, tried to spot elephants. spotted lots of monkeys instead. decided to stop in the middle of a hill and try the pahadi maggi! watched him make it on a chulla! heard a goat while we waited. went and found the goat and adorable little puppies! went back. inhaled the maggi! sipped the chai and proceeded! drove past the campsite by mistake. drove back. got off. walked down to the campsite with heavy backpacks and high chances of falling! were showed to our tent! spent the next few hours coming to terms with the beauty surrounding us! saw a familiar but unknown face. went from strangers to friends in 1 glass of beer and a few pieces of chocolate with Niladri Mukherjee. picked up my book. Read about hanuman while keeping an eye on the monkeys running around on the other side of the river! Used an eco toilet! was pretty fascinated by it! realised the closest place to charge our phones was a village 15 minutes away. let my phone die. drank local rum by the campfire. chatted with strangers. learnt how to find the north star (it’s somewhere on the left of the big dipper?). went to bed. woke up way too early and excited! got ready to go rafting. picked a raft. were asked to go in the other one instead. got annoyed at the guy in front of me for being a terrible rafter. got over it. jumped in every time Manoj (our guide) asked if we wanted to! Felt super happy on the rapids. watched the raft behind us (the one we wanted to be on) flip on the golfcourse rapid! watched the panic. almost panicked! sat still as people got pulled on to our raft. tried to help. made it to lakshman jhulla! ate some more maggi! changed. said goodbye to the best guides ever! stopped at Tip Top dhaba. had the BEST chicken ever! Continued to the airport. made it back home WITH CLOTHES STILL WET FROM THE GANGA DUPKI AND A LIST OF AT LEAST 8 THINGS I DID FOR THE FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE in just 5 days! #sabbatical

why take that sabbatical?

I started my career in advertising right out of college. And like most others, it sucked me right in. The late hours, the advertising groups, the events! It became my world, a world I was very fascinated with and completely content in. Until one day I literally stumbled upon an interesting website, that happened to be the website of Miami Ad School. And again I was hooked. The idea grew on me faster than I could shake it off. I began applying. Wrote all my essays, did the thousand projects they needed. And just like that, I was opening an envelope with my name on it and my acceptance letter in it! But life had other plans, actually my parents had other plans. After all of this they decided, this was the right time to tell me they thought it was a bad idea. They didn’t want to spend that kind of money on a 2-year course. Shit! I had already quit my job! And was half way to Miami in my head. So after a lot of crying I decided to look for a 1-year course and before anyone could raise any other issues I was on my way to chicago portfolio school! It turned out to be one of the best years of my life. I learnt to drink beer, take care of myself, make chicken biryani, to be an ideator not just a writer, do stand up comedy. And I also learnt that saying goodbye to such an amazing city and great friends was super hard. But before I could even get over my jet lag I found myself getting ready to go to office! And I was back to the grind. It was a fun grind. But like any other grind you get stuck in it. After 3 years of enjoying it, I started getting nauseous. I needed to get out, to do more with my life, to actually start doing the things I always though I would do someday! Because if I didn’t now, why would I do them later? So after a hard conversation with my boss and mentor I was on my way to actually living the life I imagined. I was on a 6 month sabbatical. With no plans. But that’s the best part. When you open yourself up so completely to new opportunities and experiences, you don’t have to go looking for them, because very often they find you first! I said YES to almost everything that came my way. 10 day vipassana, kite surfing, sleeping on the beach, sleeping in the car, organic farming in Cotswold, backpacking through Europe, living with villagers in Maharasthra, spending more money than I wanted to in Woodstock, flying trapeze classes in Brooklyn, Dutch mass in Amsterdam, trekking in Cinque Terre. After 6 months of saying yes. I realized something had changed in me. I couldn’t go back to the old me or the old job. So I quit. Again with no plans. And suddenly on a lazy, Chicago afternoon. I realized what I was doing right then: being on Sabbatical – made me happy. So why wouldn’t it make others happy? Maybe I could help others find that happiness? Push them to take that trip they always talk about. Show them that’s its not as difficult as it seems. All you need to do is jump! And after another 6 months of back and forth (and some more travelling) I did it! I registered, created and launched my own brand: Sabbatical! Sabbatical is a state of mind. Sabbatical is a style of travel. Sabbatical is a holiday from holidays. And Sabbatical is also the push people need. An innovative travel and experience service, Sabbatical curates and offers a handpicked collection of unique, inspiring sabbaticals across India, that range from 5 days to 6 months. All the Sabbatical experiences are specifically selected to engage mind, body and soul and encourage travellers to take the road less travelled. These Sabbaticals are designed to take people to places outside their comfort zone, teach life lessons and make people grow into the person they want to be. P.S. These are not holidays or sightseeing packages. No, they are not about being comfortable and relaxed. Yes, there will be really hard bits. But it will be worth it. Promise!

15 things to do on sabbatical:

So you’ve taken the sabbatical plunge and now aren’t too sure what to do? I was there and then i went everywhere!

Here’s 15 of the most memorable things i did:

  1. Flying trapeze classes in NYC

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  1. Kite Boarding in Tamil Nadu

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  1. Organic farming in Cotswold with WWOOF
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  1. Trekking in Cinque Terre with Walkabout Tours
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  1. Vipassana in Markal, Pune
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  1. Spotting bioluminescent algae in Tuticorin
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  1. Village living in Purushwadi
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  1. Sunrise sailing in Mumbai

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  1. Living in Milan’s kindest youth hostel – Ostello Bello
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  1. Figuring out the baba’s trade secret (i won’t spoil it)
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  2. Red Light District church mass in Amsterdam
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  3. Drumcircling in Woodstock
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  4. Eating a fried Mars bar in Edinburgh
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  5. Free walking tour in Brussels
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  6. Kiteflying in Ahmedabad
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